Counseling & Coaching Solutions

Infidelity: Signs & Strategies
By Lauren Trecosta
July 26, 2008

If you think that infidelity has invaded your marriage, then chances are something – not necessarily sexual infidelity – is encroaching on your turf, and it is making you feel uncomfortable.
Let’s take a look at some of the more obvious signs of infidelity. Chances are you are noticing changes in your spouse’s behavior. She or he is unreachable at times when they used to be reachable. There are times when your spouse is absent, and you never really know for sure where s/he is.

Divorce & the Kids
Lauren Trecosta
8/14/08

There is no getting around the pain of divorce. It is the ultimate break-up. It ranks
number two on the stress scale because of the sheer magnitude and multiplicity of the
impact. In almost every way, divorce represents turmoil, loss, or transition. The
transition can lead to a positive result. In a divorce, however, you can count on the
change being tumultuous.

Soda:
Corroding Teens’ Health
By Lauren Trecosta
July 26, 2008

When I was growing up, soda was reserved for the special occasion. When our
family went out for dinner, we were sometimes allowed to get a soda. It wasn’t a supersized
soda either. It was a regular one … in a glass bottle. I remember I sipped mine
really slowly; we were only allowed one.

Relationships Sample E-mail

Why do I always attract people who are not good for me?

Dear Reader:

We can only speculate about what makes you attractive to people who are not good for you in relationships. We may have better success if we take a look at what makes you attracted to people who are not good for you in relationships.

Perhaps, a good place to start is to examine 1) what you want in a partner, and 2) what goals you have for a relationship.

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Co-Parenting

Gay/Lesbian Issues

Co-Parenting Sample E-mail

We are a married couple who never thought we would become one of the statistics of divorce. Now, here we are, unable to work it out and in the process of getting a divorce. Though it isn’t easy, we are doing our best to separate amicably. Our biggest concern is coordinating parenting for the sake of our children. How do we coordinate parenting so that we raise them feeling secure, loved, and not vulnerable to the risks of being raised in a broken family.

Dear Reader:

Coordinating parenting is essential to caring for children in a divorcing family, and so I am glad to hear that they are your greatest concern. Even if your children are teenagers, they are powerless over your divorce. They may not always show it, but they are absolutely relying on you to keep them feeling secure and loved.

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Relationships

Gay/Lesbian Issues

Gay/Lesbian Sample E-mail

My teenage son just told me he is gay. Please help me. I don’t know how to handle this.

Dear Reader:

There are at least two responses to consider when you are parenting a child who informs you that he is gay: 1) what does your son most need from you at this time, and 2) what do you most need at this time. Quite possibly the answers to both will include: love, support, understanding, and guidance. It is important to convey love and acceptance to your son even if you do not accept – or even believe – that he is gay.